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Strawberry-Peach Oatmeal Crumble

My friend Julie makes an amazing, to-die-for chocolate chocolate chip bundt cake. It’s DELISH!! Everyone loves it. In fact, my son cried this week when he found out Miss Julie had brought it and he didn’t get a piece.

I do not have Julie’s recipe. Sorry.

What I do have is the recipe I created this week that — even though nothing compares with chocolate — I hoped would not hide too far in the shadow of Julie’s confectionery delight when served side-by-side at a pastoral luncheon.

I know one should never, ever serve un-tested recipes to people outside the immediate family, but I didn’t have a choice. I couldn’t make anything that even remotely resembled cake (remember my competition?) and the ingredients I thought I had I didn’t actually have and — Have you ever entered a grocery store the day before a blizzard? It’s not pretty. I chose to make do rather than leave my family bereaved, mourning wife and mother.

So I threw together what I had as best I could, said a prayer and trotted off to church. The result was wonderful! (Even if I do say so myself.) It’s kind of like a cobbler, but tastes more like shortbread atop deliciously baked fruit. Sweet, but not too sweet. Give it a try and let me know what you think!

Strawberry-Peach Oatmeal Crumble

  • Peaches, sliced then cut into 3/4″ pieces
  • Strawberries, quartered

** You need 4 cups of fruit total, but the ratio is up to you. I did about 2:1, peaches to strawberries. Because strawberries usually boil down into a thick jam, you’ll need more peaches to make it chunky or, if you prefer, more strawberries to make it sweeter and smoother. **

  • 1/4 c brown sugar
  • 1 c flour
  • 1/3 c granulated sugar
  • 1/2 c (1 stick) butter, softened
  • 1/3 old-fashioned oats

Preheat oven to 375′F.

Combine the peaches, strawberries and brown sugar in a bowl. Stir until the fruit is evenly coated and the sugar begins to form a syrup. Place mixture in a glass baking dish (either 8″ square or a deep pie dish). If you’re using fresh fruit, pour 1/4 c water over the fruit.

(I always use frozen fruit in the winter. It’s frozen when fresh, rather than grown thousands of miles from the wintry North then transported here. If you use frozen fruit, you don’t need to add the water. As the fruit thaws, it will create its own water, thus cooking the fruit and keeping it moist on its own.)

At this point, your dessert should look like this:

In a clean bowl, combine the remaining ingredients. Use a fork (or your fingers) to mix until crumbly. Place this mixture in an even layer over the fruit. Bake at 375′F for 40-45 minutes, or until the top is a light golden brown and the fruit appears bubbly underneath.

It should look like this:

Allow to cool slightly (about 5 minutes). Serve warm with whipped cream or vanilla ice cream!

6 comments February 28, 2010

Untitled, unsettled

I saw a recent photo of my dad this weekend. His arms wrapped around two of my brothers while the sun drenched them and their wives with happiness.

My dad and I never had a healthy relationship. Never. Even when I tried, when he tried, when all apparent barriers were removed, it just didn’t work. Granted we did not always supply fervent persistence, but for twenty years we tried. For twenty years we failed.

Finally, I gave up. That sounds fatalistic, and perhaps it is, but I just couldn’t do it any more. The effort of trying and never being heard exhausted me. The emotional roller coaster of striving for approval and then almost instantly losing it again. I had been hurt too deeply too often. And I’m sure I hurt him too. I do not claim to be blameless. The cycle never improved, and my ability to survive it diminished.

Should toxic relationships continue? Should they be forced to endure simply because of obligation? Or blood relation? When nothing changes and it never gets better, should one persist?

Most days I feel justified in my choice to pursue him no longer. But then some days, like today, I wonder. I wonder if we ever really knew each other. I wonder if we had spent more time together, if we had tried a little harder, could we have made it work? Maybe I didn’t fully forgive. Maybe my expectations were unfair. Maybe we both judged too quickly. Maybe he has changed in the last ten years. Maybe …

Maybe I’m that seven-year-old girl all over again. Feeling lost and abandoned. Longing for just a hint of unconditional care. Wishing my life were even a little like all the beautiful stories I’ve read in books.

But I’m not that little girl. Once innocent and hopeful, this face now sports wrinkles and sun-spots, both more prevalent with each passing year. Once frivolous and carefree, I now have responsibilities that extend beyond myself. I have a family. I have children to protect. And while part of me wonders what could be, most of me refuses to subject these precious charges to the childhood I endured. Most of me knows I’m not strong enough to withstand the emotional paralysis trying again would likely cause.

A whisper gently encourages me:

“Sing to God, sing praises to His name;
Lift up a song for Him who rides through the deserts,
Whose name is the LORD, and exult before Him.

A father of the fatherless and a judge for the widows,
Is God in His holy habitation.

God makes a home for the lonely;
He leads out the prisoners into prosperity,
Only the rebellious dwell in a parched land.”
(Psalm 68:4–6, NASB)

God is a Father. He is my Father.

He is a Judge and a Defender of those who cannot defend themselves, those who have been wronged and desperately need a warrior on their side. He defends me.

He comforts the lonely. Even me.

He frees prisoners and causes them to rejoice. Even those imprisoned by their past. He frees me from regret and guilt.

If only it were easier to take hold of all He offers.

9 comments February 27, 2010

Read with Me: What habits have you formed?

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” ~ Jim Ryun

We’ve started this journey together motivated by ambition, friendship and solid desires to know God and his Word. Now we just need to let the habit carry us through to the end.

Howya doin? We’re almost to the end of February and rather than ask what chapters you have or haven’t read, I want to talk about habits.

Kellie made some super encouraging remarks on last weeks check-in. She reminded us all that this challenge is less about the goal and more about the journey.

Isn’t all of the Christian life like that? God cares much less about what we do than what we are. It’s not about the job or the tasks; it’s about who we become, who we are becoming. It’s not about where we go, but those we meet. It’s not about titles, but relationships. And knowing God is meant to be a relationship. Are we checking off assignments or are we following that desire that first motivated us? Our goal is to know God and His Word.

So, tell me: what habits have you formed since we started this journey? Do you have a specific time or place where you read your Bible? What if your routine is thwarted? How do you adjust your schedule to find that quiet moment?

5 comments February 26, 2010

A collection of randomness and snow

I have started several posts this week, but haven’t been able to finish any of them. Too many thoughts crowd my mind: rabbit trails, interruptions and pontifications that seem heavy, but may be about nothing at all. Rather than start another weighty post that may never reach completion, I’m going random today.

Just as I’ve not posted much lately, I’ve not written much lately. I have three separate book proposals in different stages of completion, all vying for attention in my already cluttered brain.

I remember as a kid thinking it was cool to have ADD because I never got bored like most of my classmates. As an adult, I see clearly how un-cool it really is. Oh, I would love to be just a little bored sometimes. Or at least settled and focused. Focus eludes me lately and I grow weary of the chase.

It’s snowing. Again. Have I mentioned how DONE with winter I am? Well, I am. Our lovely local weatherman predicts 8-14″ of the fluffy white crap precipitation will dump on grace us over the next 36 hours.

The kids are home from school today and will likely be home again tomorrow. I’m open to suggestions of what to do with them how we can best enjoy this time together. My fall-back is always baking. I love baking with my kids! Unfortunately, I also love eating with my kids, so the length of this winter is showing on my hips.

I think I have a big head. This is not surprising since I have often complained of my daughter’s large noggin and how hats never seem to fit her properly. (I do love hats! I’m quite a sucker for most accessories: hats, purses, jewelry, scarves. They just make me happy.) It only seems right that she got it from me. I love headbands, but they always give me headaches. Does anyone else experience this? Is there a place to buy headbands for big-headed women? I’ve tried switching to scarves or elastic headbands, but they just slip off the back of my head. I guess my ridiculously straight hair is to blame. Or maybe my head is small in the back and big in the front. Like a Conehead only pointing behind me instead of toward my mother planet. (I warned you about the randomness – didn’t I? Oh, good.)

Have I mentioned our massive spring cleaning? Initially I had hoped it might provoke winter to end early. Obviously, that plan didn’t work. Apparently, I am not the center of the universe and nature pays me no heed.

The project has since turned into something else entirely. We are exploring the possibilities of moving. We want to stay local, but in a different house (preferably with more closet space). I say this hesitantly (not the part about the closets. I really meant that.) because it is all tentative and very much the definition of limbo. (That would be definition #3, if you consult dictionary.com.) So what began as spring cleaning has become an extravagant migration of clutter mixed with long-overdue fixes so that we can prepare the house to sell, if we do indeed decide to sell. My stacks of books and paperwork have flown from the dining room to the bedroom to the kitchen, never finding a permanent home, but always making clear the room to be photographed next. (Anyone looking for something in the NYC suburbs? Let me know. I have pictures. :) ) In the meantime, I regularly stalk realtor.com and local open houses while making lists of what we want, what we need and what we can afford. I trust God knows what is in store for us and I hope those plans include a home office for me.

At first, I was annoyed that the kids’ school was closed today; I really didn’t want to tack on more school days in June and I felt an early dismissal would be sufficient. But I just watched two cars spin-out in front of my house. I am now thanking God that our school board had the foresight to keep our kids home. (Also, if any of the powers that be are reading this, forgive me for my arrogance. You’re the best!) Thank You, God, that we don’t have to leave our house today!

I sold two more book purses this week. Between the snow, the cleaning and other stuff going on, I’ve only sewn a little this month, and all for special orders. Here’s one I did this week. It’s so fun: Pride and Prejudice with a fun, funky floral.

Pride and Prejudice has definitely been the most requested title. Hop over to my Etsy shop to see what’s still available. Also, I’m taking orders now for Easter and Mother’s Day. Oh, and I have a client interested in having them made as bridesmaid gifts for her September wedding! That should be fun.

Today is the deadline for the giveaway at CCBR. If you’ve not yet entered, be sure to do that before this evening. Also, I have a couple books to give away on this site next week, so stay tuned.

All right, I gotta get. Something should be crossed off my to-do list before I enter Narnia for more shoveling.

Happy Thursday, all!

6 comments February 25, 2010

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Right now CCBR is hosting a giveaway of some great books! Follow THIS LINK for full details. Get an extra entry by following the site on Twitter too. GO HERE to do that.

Add comment February 22, 2010

Read with Me Confessions

Some of you probably think I’m doing splendidly since I host these check-ins every week.

I’m not. I’m behind. WAY behind.

At this point I would like to reiterate the fact that this was not my idea. I simply tweeted a link which Kellie jumped on and before I knew it the whole thing had snowballed into a giant group resolution. Not that I’m complaining! I’m glad we’re doing it! And I’m very glad that Kellie nixed my once-a-month weigh-in for a once-a-week blog post, because if we only checked in once a month, I would still be reading about Noah.

This week I debated whether or not checking off corporately read portions is cheating.

Our church is going through the book of John on Sunday mornings. We (the Read With Me group) won’t get to John until October. Can I check it off now and be closer to our goal? Is the goal just to read the Bible in a year or to read it by myself in a year? Is that cheating? It feels a little like adding things I’ve already done to a to-do list just so I have more crossed off.

Wake up.
Shower.
Take kids to school.

Yup. Crossing things off, but neglecting the real purpose.

Read your Bible.
Spend time with God.
Create a healthy habit.

So here I am. By today I should be through ten chapters of Leviticus. (I’m on Exodus 15.) I should be on Psalm 40. (I’m on 31.) I should be in Matthew 18. (I’m in Matthew 15; that’s not too far off – right?) And I don’t even want to talk about Acts. Let’s just say I wish it were still January.

Your turn. Tell me I’m not the only one who is behind. Tell me I can catch up. Tell me we’re making progress. Tell me spring is coming!

13 comments February 19, 2010

Recent Kid Quotes

Me: “Is that your writing hand?”
Zach: “When I have chips in my hand it is.”

Me: “What would you like for lunch?”
Ellie: “Do we have any strawberries?”
Me: “No. Sorry, babe.”
Ellie, looking into the refrigerator: “Hmmm … what else can I dip into chocolate?”

Zach, praying: “Thank you, God, for Daddy and Ellie and Grandma and Grandpa. And please help Mommy to work faster.”

Me: “Why do you two always wait until I’m ready to eat to tell me something you want?”
Zach: “‘Cause we like you to eat last.”

And overheard at recess …

A 1st grader: “I’m just worried that I’ll do bad in math because of my brain.”

A preschooler: “I just really like boobies.”

And my personal favorite quote of the month comes with visual aids.

From a 5th grader: “Is that Will Ferrell?”

We were watching the pilot movie of Little House on the Prairie. What do you think? Do you see a resemblance?

I guess I can see Ferrell playing a spoof of Charles Ingalls … I wonder who would be Mrs. Oleson?

6 comments February 18, 2010

Ends Unraveled

Author L. L. Barkat posted on Monday about the messiness of life. The short post specifically dealt with whether or not characters in her novel should have neatly tied up chapters and lives or if she should reveal the more authentic, messy side of reality.

While I love reading and editing novels, I don’t write them. Even so her post spoke to me about my writing … and about my life.

Do I hide the unraveled threads?

Almost two years ago a friend whom I had met through this blog (and other places online) hurt me deeply. She criticized not just my writing, but me personally as a mother and a follower of Christ. It devastated me. I don’t want to get into the details, I just want to say that her words have affected the way I handle myself online. And now I wonder if the changes made have caused more damage.

Where I used to enjoy the cathartic nature of writing, I now hesitate.

Where I used to share my soul with friends and readers, I now share only glimpses, the neat and tidy glimpses.

Where I used to leave lots of wonderings and pontifications and unraveled threads, I now wait until I have the answers before posing any questions.

I don’t have all the answers. I’m not always a neat, tidy, positive person. (My husband is probably laughing out loud at that statement, since he believes only one of those adjectives ever describes me!) I struggle and I fight and I feel bitter and angry and troubled. I have doubts.

But I think all of this is part of the beauty of life – isn’t it? God can take these messed up lives and create something amazing from them, even when we fail to tie up the ends.

I’m going to try to be more authentic with you, more open with you. I’m sorry I’ve … hesitated too much lately.

2 comments February 17, 2010

Lots and lots of snow.

The kids haven’t had school in a week.  Thus the vast silence around the blog.

Honestly, I have no idea how people blog when their kids are home all the time. I blogged when the kids were young and still took naps, but now … well, I don’t know how you all do it! It’s crazy here. If they’re home, I’m not on the computer for more than checking email.

This morning greeted us with yet another two inches (and still snowing) and another school delay, so while the kids watch Handy Manny, I’m going to post some winter pics.

Since Whimzie posted her lamppost picture, I figured I should include mine. For the record, I think her picture is better, even with the car in the corner. I took this picture before we started shoveling, so it’s tough to tell how deep it is. Consider this: I am 5’7″ and normally I must reach up to touch those tree branches. I have to jump to grab hold of them.

This is my van after we started unearthing? un-snowing? Digging it out.

The boys worked really hard, while Ellie made sure she got in lots of pictures …

… and started lots of snowball fights.

All right, I must go. I’ve got more shoveling to do this morning. Happy Tuesday, all!

3 comments February 16, 2010

Reflections on Genesis

Last summer I taught a class on the five women in Matthew’s genealogy of Christ. The list includes Tamar, Rahab, Bathsheba, Ruth and Mary. It’s a short list, but an intriguing one. The members include a prostitute, an adulteress, a twice-widowed woman who imitates a harlot to seduce her father-in-law, a barren heathen (also widowed), and an unmarried teenager who becomes a revolutionary. As I prepared the study, then taught the class, I continually asked God “Why these women?”

Women are typically ignored in biblical genealogies. The records followed fathers and sons, though primarily just the firstborn son. Women and daughters were obviously necessary to continue the line, but they weren’t considered important. Women didn’t make history; men did. These five women, however, did make history — even in the eyes of the men who wrote history.

The same question — Why them? — haunted me through our reading of Genesis. Why these people listed in this way? Why did this blessing pass from this person to this one? Who was significant enough to be remembered and why?

I learned (yet again and in a new way) that God rarely follows man’s rules of importance. Seldom was the firstborn blessed above all the rest. Look at Israel’s sons.

Rueben was the firstborn, but he was also the one who slept with his father’s concubine, the mother of two of his brothers. His own father cursed him as a result.

Joseph, the righteous eleventh son, was the one with prophetic dreams who saved his family and indeed the whole nation of Egypt. He seems like the front runner in God’s eyes, but even He was overlooked for the Messianic promise.

Who became the ancestor of Christ? Judah! Judah, the third son, was the one who initiated the sale of Joseph into slavery. He also married a Canaanite woman, raised three evil sons, failed to keep his promises the the widow of his sons, then took solace in a prostitute after his wife’s death. Well, he thought she was a prostitute until the daughter-in-law he rejected and condemned to poverty became obviously pregnant. This is the man God chose as the heir of the promise. This is the man God chose to honor as part of the lineage of the Messiah.

Why? I don’t know.

What I do know is that God has a plan and we’re all part of it. Israel, Rueben, Joseph, Judah … the firstborns and the first chosens, the blessed and the Bathshebas. The faithful ones waiting expectantly and the spoiled rotten ones who spit in the face of grace. We all have our place.

Genesis reminded me of 1 Corinthians 12. Here is how The Message phrases verses 13-18:

“You can easily enough see how this kind of thing works by looking no further than your own body. Your body has many parts—limbs, organs, cells—but no matter how many parts you can name, you’re still one body. It’s exactly the same with Christ. By means of his one Spirit, we all said good-bye to our partial and piecemeal lives. We each used to independently call our own shots, but then we entered into a large and integrated life in which he has the final say in everything. (This is what we proclaimed in word and action when we were baptized.) Each of us is now a part of his resurrection body, refreshed and sustained at one fountain—his Spirit—where we all come to drink. The old labels we once used to identify ourselves—labels like Jew or Greek, slave or free—are no longer useful. We need something larger, more comprehensive.

“I want you to think about how all this makes you more significant, not less. A body isn’t just a single part blown up into something huge. It’s all the different-but-similar parts arranged and functioning together. If Foot said, “I’m not elegant like Hand, embellished with rings; I guess I don’t belong to this body,” would that make it so? If Ear said, “I’m not beautiful like Eye, limpid and expressive; I don’t deserve a place on the head,” would you want to remove it from the body? If the body was all eye, how could it hear? If all ear, how could it smell? As it is, we see that God has carefully placed each part of the body right where he wanted it.”

Joseph saved the country, but he was no greater than Israel or Judah or Aaron. Tamar seduced her father-in-law, but this makes her no less important than Sarah or Rachel or Ruth.

The same is true for us today. I may write and teach Bible classes, but that makes me no more important than my neighbor. A missionary in Africa is no less in need of grace than the homeless man drinking in the ghetto of San Francisco. We all have our parts to play. If we heed God, we’ll all be great in the end because together we make God glorified. He’s the star of the show. None of the rest matters.

If you missed Whimzie’s post last week on Genesis, you have to go check it out. Great thoughts over there!

Genesis behind us, we’re now in Exodus, about to start Leviticus. We haven’t lost anyone – have we?

I saw someone this week who said she didn’t want to talk to me because she knew she was behind in her reading. Please don’t avoid me!! I’m still a bit behind, too, but  — you know what? I’m okay with that. This year will have ups and downs, busy times and free times. Lately I seem to have a lot of busy, crazy, stressful times. When things calm down, I’ll catch up. In the meantime, I keep reading, keep trying, keep working toward our goal. That’s all you need to do, too. We can do it!

So, howya doin?

6 comments February 12, 2010

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